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Men & women are different. Not better or worse -different. Different values different set of rules. Men & women were created differently because they had different jobs to perform. They have different job description. Men hunted women gathered. Men protected, women nurtured.

  • Everyone knows it but are not willing to admit it.
  • The high rate of divorce nowadays is the evidence of the problem that we have.
  • In this post we are going to identify some obvious differences. Then I'm going to identify proven scientific differences.
  • All this is only for the purpose of better understanding each other to live happily with each other as husbands & wives.

I was reading a great book entitled: "Why men don't listen, and women can't read maps"! and was inspired about many things written inside that I would like to share with in my blog:)


First: Some differences are obvious!
  • When men go to toilet they only for one reason. Women go to toilet to socialize. They go strangers and come out best friends!
  • Men dominate TV remote flicking thru channels women do not mind seeing repeated commercials.
  • Men always criticize women for lack of sense of direction while driving while men cannot find pair of socks.
  • Men are astonished from a women walking into a room full of people and give an instant commentary on everyone.
Second: Proven differences
A- Angle of vision
Women have wider peripheral vision, men have tunnel vision because as a hunter man needed vision that would allow him to pursue targets in the distance whereas a woman needed eyes to allow a wide arc of vision so that she could monitor predators sneaking up on the nest.
  • Statistics showed that in UK in 1997 64 % of the children pedestrians killed or injured on the roads were boys while the rest 36% were girls. Boys take more risks than girls crossing the road and this combined with poorer peripheral vision in boys.
  • Car insurance statistics also showed that most car accident of women drivers were front or back hit accidents while men have side hits accidents, again because of the wider versus narrower angle of vision.
  • A husband can never find things in fridge, drawers, and cupboards even if they are directly in front of him.


B: Multitasking
A women brain is configured for multitasking performance. She can do several unrelated things at the same time.
While a man’s brain is configured to concentrate on one specific dedicated task at once. And most men will tell you they can do only one thing at a time.

  • Women can talk on the phone, cook and watch the TV at the same time. A man would shout asking his wife to put the TV volume down he needs to answer the phone.
  • When a man stops his car to read a sign ,the first thing he does he turns down the radio. Most women can’t understand why this happens . She can read while listening ,talking so why can’t he?
  • A women can speak to one of her friends and hear what her husband is discussing with his friend.
  • When women sit together to watch a movie on TV they usually talk simultaneously about a variety of subjects including children, men, careers and what’s happening in their lives.
  • When men and women sit together to watch TV ,men end up telling women to shut up, they can either talk or watch they can’t do both, besides women consider the point of getting together is to have good time and develop relationships.
 

 
C: Priority of talking
The building of relationships through talk is a priority in the brain wiring of women. This is a listing of how many words, sound & movements women & men use to communicate daily.

 

Women

men

Speak words per day

6.000-8.000

2.000-4.000

Vocal Sounds

2.000-3.000

1.000-2.000

Gestures, facial expressions & head movement

8.000-10.000

2.000-3.000

Daily average

20.000

7.000

 
 
  • So its clear that a man’s daily average is just over a third the output of the most women.
  • That’s explains why British Medical Association recently reported that women are four times more likely to suffer with jaws problems!

 D : Spatial ability
  • Reading maps and understanding where you are ,relies on spatial ability.
    Spatial ability means being able to picture in the mind the shape of things their dimensions, co-ordinates proportions movement and geography,
  • It developed from ancient times to allow men, the hunters, to calculate, speed movement and distance of prey to catch the target.
  • The diagram of brain scan of million boys and girls show while girls are excellent at seeing 2 dimensions in the brain, boys had the ability to see third dimension, giving depth, boys outstripped girls in spatial ability by a ratio of 4:1.
  • Recent computerized images have shown the specific hot spots in the brain using the MRI machines. The left and right brain hemisphere are connected by a bundle of nerve fibers corpus (cable), this cable lets both sides of the brain communicate and exchange information.
  • Researches confirmed that a women's brain has a thicker corpus than a man's, with women having up to 30% more connections between the left and the right, they also proved that men and women use different parts of the brain when working on the same task.

 

Men & women are different and by better understanding the differences they can lead a happier and healthier and mre harmonious life. We are a product of our biology than victims of social stereotypes. We are different because our brains are wired differently; this causes us to perceive the world in different ways and have different values and priorities. Not better or worse - different!
 
 
posted by Mohd Khawaja in books @ 9:56 PM

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On March, 01, 2006 10:55 PM , Isra'a said:

The wisdom of creator makes that complementary relationship bet. Men and women to keep them together ...but this idea needs an understanding from both...


On March, 02, 2006 2:42 AM , Abu 7amarneh
from United Arab Emirates said:

although it makes sense,,, but i have some comments on this post

1. I believe that a Man a Woman is different only in Bed rooms and pregnancy sufferings

2. No one can understand women even the author of this book, whether it was male or female

3. As Ammar Ibrahim said once in his blog... "posts that are more than two paraghraphs are just ingnored".. consider it an advice dude.

4. be proud of being a man, at least u can gain and lose wieght without bothering your self what you should wear to hide or/ and show that,, you dont consider deit, and you do hear any comment about ur weight without feeling that u being humilated... simly u dont care,,

5. abu 3atari says "beer is the proof that God loves us" i dont know what hell is this has to do with the context but i felt that i shout say it.

6 dont ever never comment to a post like i did,, its boring h3h3h3


On March, 02, 2006 5:27 PM , wedad said:

I want to share this verses from bible :)

"Then the Lord God formed the man out of the dust from the ground and breathed the breath of life into his nostrils, and the man became a living being.
So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to come over the man, and he slept. God took one of his ribs and closed the flesh at that place. Then the Lord God made the rib He had taken from the man into a woman and brought her to the man, And the man said:
This one, at last, is bone of my bone,
and flesh of my flesh;
this one will be called woman,
for she was taken from man"


On March, 03, 2006 2:26 PM , Ramroom
from United Arab Emirates said:

Interesting thanx for sharing! It would be much easier if both genders start understanding that the differences are majorly biological, it would save a lot of trouble!


On March, 06, 2006 2:49 AM , Khawaja M.
from Jordan said:

Issraa & Ramroom...
As I said .. we know that but sometimes we never admit!


On March, 06, 2006 3:21 AM , Khawaja M.
from Jordan said:

Hey Hamzeh!
I do respect what you’ve said concerning the differences, but -for sure- I disagree. Because these differences are the result of different concentration of Hormones, and thus different shall cause different attitudes, mentalities and psychology.

Concerning how short or long the post should be, I think some topics deserve that much amount of text to assure comprehension and clear understanding. For me I do enjoy reading many looonnnng post if the topic attracts me, just like the ones Khalidah submits .. they are amazing, ain't they?


On March, 06, 2006 3:36 AM , Khawaja M.
from Jordan said:

Thanks Wedad...
I have heard a friend saying: "Creating Eve from Adams round rip is a plus; because how could you live without rounded parts/components?!"

consider the pipeline as an example: if all the parts are streight how could control its direction and link remote points?!


On March, 06, 2006 3:44 AM , Dedo said:

Hello Khawaja..
I like the way you choose your topic and research them:)

Keep the good work


On March, 06, 2006 7:44 AM , Abu 7amarneh
from United Arab Emirates said:

mmm... momkin... just be informed that i read entire post before the comment, simply i was attracted.. khalidah's post are great, i cant agree more


On March, 16, 2006 7:05 AM , Khawaja M.
from Jordan said:

Abu Hamarneh...
Thanks alot for your kind advise ...

welcome back anytime:)




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